A note from Dan’s wife, Jocelyn.

In late March, I received a message from a friend of Dan’s who I’d only had the chance to meet a few times. He talked about how much he admired Dan and how much he had loved his time with him. He told me about a text that Dan had sent him a couple months before he died and the impact it had on him. I burst into tears. It was exactly Dan. It showed his character to his core. It was heartbreaking and beautiful. I think hearing stories like this helps us grieve. It’s incredibly hard, but it also feels good, because you get to remember the amazing person that you lost and all of the things that made them unique.

I have been missing those moments with all of you. These are strange times and I haven’t gotten to hug, meet, talk, drink wine, spend time with and tell stories about Dan with all of the people whose lives he touched. 

Before Dan died he told me he wanted his celebration of life to be a night where everyone told stories and laughed. My hope is that this can become a space where we share stories about Dan. The ones that made us laugh (I know there will be a lot of those), the moments that made our day, the little things he did that had a big impact on us, the ways that we will remember him. No story is too long, no comment too short. Whether you met him once for five minutes or knew him for 20 years or anything in between- it’s all important to us and I want to hear it all! You can choose to submit with your name or anonymously. You can also choose to share with only Winn and I through the email. There's also a spot to submit videos and pictures. I hope you will share those as well, because seeing that smile and hearing his laugh is such a gift. 

My dream is that this community will help Winn understand who her dad was. I want her to learn about him through the many perspectives of the lives he touched, in big ways and small. I hope that in hearing from everyone- those closest to him, people who knew him growing up, or those that interacted with him at work maybe only a few times- she will get to know her dad in a way I’m unable to convey on my own. 

Thank you for helping us heal and I hope you find some comfort in this space as well. If you’re here, I can tell you for sure, he loved you too. 

Love, Joc and Winn Hickey

“Be nice to everyone. To be a good friend you have to listen. Have compassion for other people. Be yourself.”

— Dan Hickey

“If you’re ever sad, remember tomorrow is a new opportunity.”

— Dan Hickey